Introduction

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 My name is Julie. I am 51 years old, a first born, and a Leo. I spent the first 7 years of my life in a northern Illinois industrial town with my mom and my dad, and the next 11 years in a rural northeast Arkansas farming community with my grandparents. My brother and I suffered through some things growing up, and then suddenly, we were adults, fumbling our way through the world.

I spent a long time in a sort of shock, trying to come to terms with my suspicions that something was wrong with things that happened when I was growing up. My sense of self and my sense of worth were damaged, and I did a lot of self-medicating over the decades to shove down feelings I thought I couldn't cope with any other way. I started going to therapy when I was 25 to try to make sense of my life. In the past 26 years, I have had 5 beloved therapists who have guided me through the process of figuring it out.

The most impactful thing I have ever done for myself is to dedicate myself to my spiritual healing, through addiction recovery and energy work. These 2 things have changed my life significantly. I live differently, I love differently, I fear less. I have come to a place of deep gratitude for the many places I have been that form the crooked path to where I am now.

When I was 8 years old, I started imagining myself as an older adult, coming through the mist to tell me I was going to be okay. As I grew up, I wished often that someone would create a time machine so I could really go back and comfort that little girl. I have found, through energy work, that what I thought was a trick of my child's imagination is something entirely real. It is one of the many miracles of my life. 

I am becoming the woman I always hoped I would be.














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